What are your thoughts of someone who eats alone? Before coming to Colombia, I didn’t like the thought of eating by myself, I felt it showed people that I was socially awkward. Which let’s be honest, I can be a hotmess at times. But after being thrown into a new culture, I learned my perception was wrong. This is one of the challenges living abroad, embracing change! I decided that was exactly what I wanted to do, embrace this solitude. Too often during the day we surroud ourselves with familiar people and forget to focus on what matters the most, YOU.
I figured I could use this two hour break for a little soul searchin’ time, because that’s what you’re suppose to do when traveling, right? And yes my lunch break is two hours which I have no complaints. Although my Dad finds it to be bizarre, but that’s just the Americana hardwired into him, poor fella has been in the rat race too long.
It’s funny how I actually I feel like I get more out of my day by slowing down rather than speeding up. But that seems too easy, right? It’s cliché, stop and smell the roses, they’re pretty nice! I enourage you to try this, get off the grid for a little; no labtop, no phone, just alone with your thoughts, perhaps a notepad, and an appetizing meal. Talk about a throwback to early 2000. Keep in mind results may vary due to the effort you put into this.
I openly admit that I am a people pleaser. Guilty. I said it. I really can’t stand when someone is upset with me or a relationship has become awkward. But I cannot tell you the sweet glory of not having to worry about what someone else wants or impressing them with your table etiquette. Or therefore lack of in my case. Instead the only thing you have to worry about is, “do you want that dessert after lunch?”
It’s important to surround ourselves with good people, but the occasional timeout is nurturing for the soul. Otherwise how are you suppose to become a better person if you don’t spend time alone?
I feel very priviledged to have found this new self-confidence here in Colombia. It’s small but you have to start somewhere and now is the time, because tomorrow will bring new challenges. Change the social thinking of what being alone means. Let it be the time you think about how to change your life: set goals, find meaning to your actions, and just unplug from this busy world.
What’s your favorite activity to do alone? See a movie? Go to your favorite work out class? Please share!